Wednesday, September 5, 2018

The Children's Place Denim $7.80 and more

The Children's Place is running a promotion on top of their discounted prices that includes free shipping.

Right now if you spend $20 you get two $10 off a $20 purchase vouchers to be used September 11th- September 24th.

Great deals on t-shirts ($3.80), denim ($7.80), and accessories (nylons $1.80- I get these for my daughters choir performances).

If you have never used The Children's Place, I find it is about Old Navy quality. Happy shopping!

Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Alluvial Community Garden

I have to say although I've always liked the idea of a community garden, I've never put much effort to see how to join one here in Fresno until my friend signed right up.

Alluvial Community Garden is leasing land behind Unitarian Universalist Church to individuals and families at amazingly good rates in my opinion.

Prices are as follows:
$45 a year for a 4' x 8' plot, $65 a year for a 4' x 16' plot, and $85 a year for a 4' x 24' plot.

Naturally you are expected to donate time to the community's maintenance among other things.

The garden is located between Willow and Chestnut on Alluvial. For more information visit. I'm going there on Friday to check it out!

Tuesday, February 6, 2018

The Greatest Showman

"A human soul, ‘that God has created and Christ died for,’ is not to be trifled with. It may tenant the body of a Chinaman, a Turk, an Arab or a Hottentot – it is still an immortal spirit."  -P.T. Barnum

The Greatest Showman is the kind of movie that no matter how many times you watch it, it will not grow old. It was more serious than I anticipated, but decidedly not Les Mis but doesn't drag on the way Singing in the Rain does (the girls of all seasons everyone?). I look forward to cleaning and singing around the house to a new soundtrack. I must say this is the first musical that I was disappointed there were not more songs. Efron and Jackman are an excellent combo in tails and top hats and quite the birthday gift for my sister. The dancers- amazing. The singing- I did get chills.

I am grateful for the message of inclusion and the undefeatable human spirit (but don't expect too much from the film-remember not Les Mis). Forget the fact that if you spend any time even on the wiki most of the story is very very loosely based on life amongst other issues, but are we all being subject to a hoax? Did we not smile?

Well done, well done my friends.

Not sure what a Hottentot is. 

Goodnight all. 

Monday, February 5, 2018

Thoughts on Moms

Moms Rock 

This post is mostly random thoughts and I have no plans to organize it as it is part of my goal to write every day so read at your own risk. 

I have known many amazing women in my life that were never mothers and they have been powerful influences in my life. Some of my additional "mothers" or mentors were found outside the home. 

I do find the older I get the more "feminist" I become, but that is only a little bit of what this post is about. 

Why has our society as a whole moved away from seeing motherhood as a full worthy goal for a young woman to have? Why do we have to go out and discover ourselves? What if we already know who we are? When did we become hostile to procreation and bringing up the next generation for the sheer joy of having a family? When did propagating the species become a negative thing? 

Imagine a bunch of teenagers, sitting together in a living room, happily getting along. In walks the mom with a plate of cookies that she just baked, do the teenagers A. slap the cookies to the ground and tell her "Get a job! Do something with your life? or do the teenagers B. cheerfully take a cookie or two and thank her for being thoughtful and kind. 

B. Right? Hopefully!

In the true spirit of womanhood and feminism shouldn't we celebrate and support each other in all our endeavors? I know there are some people we just love to hate. We get giddy with schaudenfreude when they mess up because generally their perfect pinterest hair, and perfect pinterest house, and perfect pinterest family is so out of reach to us that its annoying. But we never know what is really going on. The Mom might be on antidepressants and seriously OCD in a real way that she struggles with every day. 

This is one of the biggest problems with social media. It presents a world filled with tailored propaganda in which main people reign as the star even with their humble-brag posts. Don't get me wrong I love social media, but I try to keep it all in perspective and use it for good. I think it's a wonderful way to get a pulse on people and connect with them so you can see past the pictures and get to know what is going on in their lives so you know when to lend a hand or express a kind word to brighten their day. 

My biggest struggle as a mother is not necessarily connecting with my kids, but I fear hearing their struggles. I fear hearing about any horribleness they have had to endure. It hurts so much and its difficult to come up with the right words to help them through their emotions. You hear people that go on and on about how their parents were so wise and always had the right thing to say and for me there is so much pressure that I want to run away. It's so hard, but I put on a brave face and stay where I am and listen and hope that it's enough. 

For those of you that know what to say bless you. There are moments, even with five kids, that I think, Aww. I'm a real mom now. Maybe it's impostor syndrome or something, I mean, I was 16 for like 8 years. 

I'm tired, that's all I got ya'll. Give your mom a phone call and if you can't, honor her in some way that would make her happy. Hugs. Goodnight.

Sunday, February 4, 2018

Family History Community Event

Discover your Heritage is a free community event
 February 24, 2018, 10am-1pm

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
Fresno California East Stake
1880 Gettysburg Avenue
Clovis, California 93611

You can register through Eventbrite. 

For more information visit and register to attend up to 3 FREE (50 minutes) classes at:

Come to Discover Your Heritage and learn how to strengthen your family across generations. Hear encouraging messages from experts in the industry and other popular speakers who will help inspire you to:

- Seek your ancestors and invite them to your next family reunion
- Build your family tree
- Discover and share your family's stories
- Furthering family history efforts using the latest and greatest technology available today

Whether you’re just starting your family tree, an avid hobbyist, or an experienced researcher, we have something for everyone!

Contact Steve Mecham with any questions

Family History Activities for the Whole Family
  • Exhibit Hall Exhibitors (See below for listing)
  • Free Family History Classes (See below for listing)
  • Children's "Make & Take" Activities - Ages 3 and up
  • Relative Finder - Which of your friends might be your cousins?
  • Free Photo Booth - Period costumes will be available. Wear your own if you want!
Attendance is FREE! Just click the REGISTER button to get started. Pre-registration required.

Exhibitors and Activities
  • Afro-American Historical & Genealogical Society of Central California
  • Daughters of the American Revolution
  • Daughters of Utah Pioneers
  • Fresno County Genealogical Society
  • FamilySearch Support Experts
  • FamilySearch Indexing
  • FamilySearch Memories Gallery
  • FamilySearch Web-based Indexing Station
  • Online Book Collection
  • Chukchansi Indian Tribe Heritage Display
  • Family History 2.0, A New Generation of Genealogy
  • Mayflower Society
  • Billion Graves Eagle Service Project
  • Relative Finder - Discover how you are related to presidents, the famous and friends
  • Kodak Scanner Station - Bring a USB thumb drive to save your scanned photos
  • All the Stories ( Station
  • Photo Booth - Period costumes will be available - FREE
  • Family History Center Exhibit
  • Ship Brooklyn - Did your relatives help settle California?

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Fresno film entered in Uber contest

Local filmmaker Orlando Gomez entered into a Uber contest on Youtube. Sammy (my husband) helped make this. The prize? $10,000!

Support your fellow Fresnans!

Help them win the contest by adding your thumbs up on there 90 second Youtube video "Spanish Lessons."

It did show up as flagged in my restricted mode (on youtube) today, but I promise there is nothing remotely inappropriate about it.

Thanks and enjoy!


Tuesday, January 9, 2018

Minecraft and Days- Behavior Modification

So when my son entered the institution, I mean educational system, he experienced the struggle that most boys do- he is extremely wiggly. Classic motivational techniques weren't enough to help him get through the day without a yellow or red (both are bad).

No amount of coaxing was working until...Minecraft. Yes that bane of parents everywhere.

Minecraft became our incentive for my then 6 year old- and it worked!

A new discipline system was born in our home. For every poor day of behavior "a day" is given, which isn't really "a day" but instead, it was a removal of video games privileges. All video games are banned until the "day" is either over, or until he/she works it off.

Soon, the "days" were extended to include all the children's infractions. We also decided that if a child ends up with two or more "days" then any and all screen time is out. No movies, no cartoons, etc. until the "days" are over.

We found quickly that the "days" were being given out liberally so we tried to come up with ways to work off the "days" to make the crime fit the punishment. For example, if you got a "day" for not cleaning up your room, you could remove the "day" by cleaning up the room, but if you chose not to, you could wait (without video games) until the next day. Screaming in the car = unloading the dishwasher.

It's been over a year now, and I'm happy to say it continues to be the best system we have yet to come up with. It applies equally to all the ages between 4 and 11 years old. We have a chart with each name on it and sticky notes that they post on their name according to the number of days the have. This way we remain consistent and they get to have the satisfaction of removing them when the work is done or the time is up. I feel it gives the kids control over their situation. They start with a privilege. If they misbehave they have a choice whether to work it off, or wait it out.

The default privilege we allot for video games is 30 minutes each. We've also decided to encourage my son to draw, so he has to draw for 30 minutes before playing video games. Yesterday was his first day doing so, and he drew the knights from Castle Crashers. Then he played the game.

Our system is very similar to token behavior modification systems that are heavily backed by research in classrooms and special education. Learn more at this link.  You can adjust it to fit your child's needs including building tokens to earn something (5 stickers for a treasure chest toy). The main thing is to pick something you can stick with because if you don't remain consistent, the kids will lose faith in what you are trying to do and all effectiveness will be lost.

Saturday, January 6, 2018

How NOT to spend

It's a new year and most of us use these dark days to swear to do better in the next twelve months. January comes around and after the happy frenzy of the holidays we have to face the reality of our unique financial situations. Regardless of how much we make, we all struggle in our consumeristic culture not to spend more than we make. So in that spirit this post is born.

How NOT to spend.

Step one: STOP. Stop spending, or stop shopping might be more accurate.
Try to go one day without buying anything at all.
Put into perspective what you really need.
Basic consumer needs include shelter, food, clothing, shoes, hygienic staples, water, trash service, heating/cooling, fuel. Next tier would be common sense necessities like cars, bikes, insurance, internet, work related items, phone and so on. After that I would include ongoing education, recreation, and entertainment like books, movies, subscriptions like Netflix, camping supplies, sports equipment, board games etc.

Where is the rest of the money going? Do you actually use or use up everything you have? Do you buy things out of habit or because it's a good deal? Do you keep stuff because it's good stuff? Why?

Access what you have.
It might sound hilarious, but I will get so far behind on laundry that I am convinced that my kids have no clothes. Nothing fits them. I finally do ALL the laundry and magically, I have more clothes than I can handle. So many clothes they won't fit in the drawers. So it seems my problem is not the amount of clothing, it's my habits.

So think about your stuff, how does it serve you? Do you feel duty bound to keep it or would you be better off with something you prefer?

Access your resources.
How can you do it for free? The library has much more than books. They loan music, dvds, toys, audiobooks and more. They offer events and educational lectures. Living Social, Groupon, and Fresno Dealsaver all provide access to deeply discounted offers from a myriad of services. This is a good way to try out new things with half the risk. Do you like to yardsale? Thrift shop? Have you ever even tried it? Do you speak up to family and friends who might have what you need? It's ridiculous the amount of stuff that ends up in the landfills, and there are local groups on facebook, apps, Craigslist and more devoted to person to person exchanges free or otherwise. But don't get caught up in the mentality of this is good stuff, this is a good deal, just for the thrill of the chase. Love your money's buying power, its power to do good, and the space in your home more than the chase.

Set a Limit
On a whole I try not to buy anything that has not been previously decided on before I enter the store.(Additionally, I have an idea of what it's going to cost [and that doesn't mean it has to be the cheapest.]) This doesn't have to perfectly concrete, but I give myself limits to curb my spending. For instance, my limit for purchasing kids t-shirts is $4. Kids rarely wear clothing long enough to wear it out, so the quality of a $4 shirt is not my concern. I buy them at Target on clearance, or online on sites like The Children's Place (on clearance). Most the time we happily accept hand-me-downs and very little goes towards purchasing clothing. Having a cut off can really help with budgeting, along with a nice spreadsheet to document all your spending. Hunt for what you need and be strong enough to walk out of a place if they don't have what you are looking for- don't settle.

Actively Decide
Are you better off purchasing a movie than taking your whole family to the movie theater or is it the experience you want? Actively decide on what and where you will spend your money, don't let whim, sales and product placement be the reason you spend. Spending with a goal to support a specific shop is a worthy goal. Don't depend on retail therapy to make yourself happy, in the long run, self control and being purposeful will make you much more happy- no buyers remorse or hiding from your spouse the fact that your spending got away from you. (The two of you should be doing your finances together and holding one another accountable. We always discuss our purchases [even $5 purchases go on the spreadsheet] with one another to keep track of our finances.)

Focus on Quality
When we NEED something that has nothing to do with whether it will fit next season, I do focus on quality. Confession time: I am a terrible gift giver when it comes to my husband. I don't know why, it just is. So this Christmas I should have gotten him a leatherman. It's a useful, quality item and solid, something he wants, but due to a miscommunication, I ended up on this adventure for a myriad of things that still cost the same (actually slightly more) and added up to a lesser gift in total because of the randomness of it all (a comic book, a Google play card, a surprise miniature etc). They were all things he liked, but if I was going to spend $40 It would have been much better as one solid item- does this make sense? It's like when someone spends $20 on your kid at the Dollar Store when they could've bought your kid a quality doll, set or action figure that was 92% less likely to end up in the trash the next week.

Shop Local 
When I shop for gifts in particular, I try to support local shops that I know and enjoy and want to stick around. This will almost always mean it costs more than Amazon, but I know exactly who I'm supporting because I am usually looking at them while they ring up my item at the register. I like to know I am contributing to my community so that my shopping has a cause and paying a little extra is well deserved.

Food shopping is a whole other post topic and difficult because what you eat has such a life of it's own tied up in all sorts of drama. In some ways though it comes back to the same thing. What basics do you need? Set a limit, access what you have, access your resources (like do you know someone with an orange tree?) and actively decide on what you need beforehand so you are not caught up in the shiny isles around you.

Other advice includes: Don't shop hungry. Buy produce in season. Don't drive all around and spend more on gas to save a few bucks. If you have stores that are part of your routine, learn which ones have the best deals on what you're looking for. I always by wipes and diapers at Target, Up and Up is the best quality for the lowest price I can find and it works well for me. Find your "best deals" and stick to them. Couponing works great for some, but if all I'm buying is food with off flavors I don't even like, then I save more money, effort and time not buying anything at all.

Happy New Year and I hope that your families and spending habits are healthy.